Recently I turned 36. On my post about my birthday several of you asked me what advice I'd give you if you're in your twenties.
If I could sit across from my twenty-something self over coffee, I’d probably smile at how certain she thought life’s “five-year plan” was. The truth is: your twenties are less about having it all figured out and more about building the muscles that help you bend, pivot, and grow when life inevitably changes course.
In my twenties I changed careers, city and I was engaged.
Now in my thirties I don't have it all figured out. My engagement ended I moved back home and my career? Non existent. I am multi passionate I have 25 blogs on different topics but nothing really clicks as a career. I work on many projects but I'm not a career girl.
So then with this in mind to the twenty something's out there here’s the advice I’d give:
1. Don’t confuse direction with destination.
You’ll likely switch jobs, careers, cities—even identities—more than once in your twenties. That’s not failure, that’s progress. Think of your choices as setting a direction, not a permanent destination. The ability to change course is what keeps you moving forward, not stuck.
2. Treat change as a skill, not a disruption.
Change will come—new roles, shifting industries, unexpected challenges. Instead of resisting, practice treating change like a muscle you’re strengthening. Ask: What can I learn? How can I grow from this? The more you normalize change, the less it feels like chaos and the more it feels like opportunity.
3. Build relationships, not just résumés.
Careers are rarely straight lines anymore. The people you connect with—mentors, peers, collaborators—are often the bridges you’ll need when life takes a turn. Your network can be your change management toolkit.
4. Stay curious and experiment.
Your twenties are the decade for trial and error. Take the class, start the side project, say yes to opportunities that scare you a little. Curiosity keeps you adaptable, and adaptability is the ultimate career insurance.
5. Trust that you can handle more than you think.
The scariest part of change is rarely the change itself—it’s doubting whether you’ll be okay on the other side. You will be. Every time you adapt, you build resilience. By your thirties, you’ll look back and see the proof.
If your twenties teach you anything, let it be this: stability isn’t the absence of change—it’s the confidence that you can ride the wave when it comes.
Embrace the hot mess that is you as you change and grow,take care of yourself and don't ever apologies for being yourself.