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I've made this post skim friendly and if you're like I was too drained to read a long post then here's the bottom line. Conclusion: The Trans trap is taking care of others to the point you're neglecting your own needs.  Emotional blackmail is NEVER acceptable. I know that suicide rates are higher in the trans community, but that doesn't mean you're feeling should be ignored. Don't get so lost in taking care of your trans loved one and all the people this news impacts, that you forget that you matter too. I did that, the results were disastrous. H ere's how to not make my mistake.  To start, I don't care if you are LGBT affirming or not, this isn't about your loved one, this is about you because let's be honest, the help that is out there for the family and friends is severely lacking. I should know, I have a transgender sibling and you know what? That sucks.   (cue the misguided hate from people who clearly haven't read the whole article...

Short Version People that chase happiness will never be happy for very long because it's more about the chase than the object in question. Not sure you buy that? Want to know what to do instead?? Keep Reading. Happiness is an emotion, it comes and goes because life is up and down. Chasing happiness usually leads to unhealthy people with dead dreams and more debt then they know what to do with! I am not suggesting that the desire to be happy or even the pursuit of happiness is wrong. What I am against is, the idea that life is all about happiness, that we should be aiming for it in every area of our lives and if we don't somehow that makes us a failure and if we can't hold on to happiness, well then that is even worse! Happiness is an emotion, it is fleeting, I like to think of it like a butterfly, here one moment, gone the next.   Follow me on Insta for more like this....  Chasing happiness will never bring fulfilment.  It  will lead to frustration.  You would...

 Apostate. Now here comes the most tragic story,  I knew the one shining in glory. I've felt the warmth of love like no other.  I remember the day I got pulled from the gutter.  I stood up, with the help of my Lord. But let's be real, then I got broken, then I got board. I thought, rapture was imminent years ago. Thirty years later and I'm still waiting for the start of the show! Money answers all things,  But, each time I lead a sheep a stray my soul stings! I understand how Judas must have felt, and now I'm awaiting a burning punishment for pain that I've dealt.  But mercy is everlasting and I'm still here.  Maybe grace really is a licence to sin, maybe I'm fine. So, go on then dark one, for a billion bucks more I will take a sip of your wine.  And yet.. Despite all that has been going on,  If I'm feeling this convicted, can I really be too far gone? Copyright Hayley Esther 19.08.2019

 The Witches Confession.  They say Christian witches don't exist, but surprise here I am!  Fancy a bottle of oil, a prayer cloth?  Some Holy wine?  For a price of course!  If this didn't make me rich, Do you really think I would be a witch? The power is my drug! The devil's just a thug! Who says I can't play with his toys?  I thought you said I could do anything through the strength of Christ.  If I'm really honest, when I'm alone at night. I know I've embraced Jezebel.  You see I need protection from all the bugs. They say raped not ruined but have you seen my life?!  It's been so tragic, so full of strife.  So what else is a girl to do? I'm safe now, you can't take this girl boss crown!!  I'm a witch on a mission,  and the last thing on my mind is submission!  Copyright Hayley Esther 16.08.2019

So you've taken the plunge, it's official you are moving to London! Congratulations you!  You are about to embark on one heck of a journey!! Here are a few little tidbits that may help you as you make this move.  I've broken this post into 3 sections.... How You are likely to feel.  How You are likely to be treated. How to quickly adjust, or at least look like you are. Let's get started. So how are you likely to feel? Well to tell you the truth, I would be concerned if you're not on a little bit of an emotional rollercoaster right now. Moving to a new city is a big deal. So much of your life is about to change. It should feel exciting, but it's normal to feel a little (or a lot) nervous. Those butterflies in your tummy are a good thing when you first get to London, they will keep you sharp and alert.  You need to be. It's a very fast-paced place, especially in the centre and even more so when travelling.  It's okay, you will get used to it. A little lat...

Before we go any further let me just make it clear, there are affiliate links in this post. This is no extra cost to you, but if you click and purchase something via one of my links then I may make a small commission. Disclaimer :The following post is written purely from experience, if you are going through a hard time and feel the need to do so, you should seek professional assistance from the reverent sources.  I am not a doctor, counsellor or therapist, if you choose to take my advise you do so at your own risk.  I have noticed recently that we have a lot of new followers to this site, so before I get started let me give you a little bit of background. I am a country girl from South Wales, and my other half is a Londoner. We were a long distance couple for a long time, but eventually, I moved to London, not just to be closer to him, but also because it was better for my well-being, career and overall goals for fulfilment. London as with any city, is so divers...